When I was pregnant with my oldest child, I attended a labor and delivery class. I was getting closer and closer to my due date and I was scared. At the end of the class, the instructor drew with a marker on the white board a basic time line - a single horizontal line with two small vertical lines on each end. She said the timeline represented the lifetime I would be sharing with my baby.
Then she drew a third small vertical line and said that line represented the baby's birth. She went on to make the point that the birth was only a sliver of time in the big picture.
Seeing the imminent from that perspective gave me immediate relief from the anxiety I'd been experiencing. My thought process switched from fear to excitement!
This is the idea behind the Perspective Line. When considered from a broad perspective, many frightening or undesirable events can be perceived as manageable.
It's easy to feel overwhelmed or consumed by fears related to a frightening or undesirable event. This tool attempts to recalibrate thought processes toward a healthier orientation by enabling a contextual viewpoint.How To Use The Perspective Line
User prints the Perspective Line from this pdf or simply draw one.
User draws a vertical line at a point corresponding to their age at time of subject event. Under that line, user describes the subject event.
(Optional Step) When appropriate, write a potential positive outcome below the Subject Event.
Keeping in mind our overarching goals in life can promote a more positive perspective. This is the object of the Time Segment Options. When things change as things will, adjust the goals.
Another way TSO can be used is in relation to events which have little or no foreseeable potential for positive outcomes.
In such cases, the time segment options populated with possible events typically associated with positivity, may be especially helpful in promoting encouragement and hope when considered along with events which are considered unfortunate.
Looking back at past hardships that have been overcome is another way to find hope and encouragement for today. Here, the user records past events which brought about change they eventually overcame or adapted to.
Alternatively, a user could ask another person known to have overcome hardships to perform the Past Events exercise and share it with them.
Some events have connected, undesirable effects that cannot be avoided. Putting these "givens" into proper perspective can prove beneficial to managing a frightening or undesirable event.
For instance, when I first began to receive rejections from the US Patent Office, those rejections hurt! I mean they were really horrible. Eventually, I realized that rejections were simply part of the process, a sort of "necessary evil". At that point, they became much easier to bear (although I still did not like them!).
I believe this revelation had much to do with the eventual allowance of claims for my application. It gave me the extra bit of encouragement and hope I needed to persevere. I also believe the lack of knowledge of this simple truth is the reason a large number of patent applications are abandoned.
Enter the Perspective Line for Preparation Management. Here the user marks the line with the Subject Event, then underneath writes the undesirable "givens" related to event. Next to each given, user writes a positive effect of the given. Finally, user populates the Time Segment Options with ultimate goals related to Subject Event.
*Use the Perspective Line in a similar way as above to prepare for multiple possible outcomes.
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